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As We Learn About Relationships
dymond phillips • May 30, 2017
There are so many things you can name to have a fabulous relationship such as love, honesty, trust, loyalty , compassion, dedication , the list goes on. We all can relate to these in more ways than one & have countless examples BUT.. I've learned 3 main areas that we may not think too deep about now a days..
When it comes to a long lasting relationship ,I've learned 3 key points .
•Be respectful
Never do what you wouldn't want your mate to do. Give each other that respect that you'd want to be given towards you. In a relationship , it's NOT just about your feelings, your wants & your desires. Respect what they say and how they feel. Hear them out and respect what they say when they tell you how they feel no matter how relevant you think it is or is not. TALK to each other with respect, never talk down or make them to feel as though your "better" than your mate,. Never degrade their personality , call them out their name or humiliate them . Say what you mean and mean what you say, and if you honestly feel what you say, re-evaluate your relationship.
•Communicate
IF YOU HAVE A PROBLEM , SAY SOMETHING!
You not your partner are mind readers and should not act as such . So many potential relationships fail due to the lack of communications from not really understanding either point of view.
Take time and sit down with your partner and really understand each other's thoughts and feelings when it comes to issues and step into each other's shoes . Everyone's feelings matter .
•Know your worth.
Start the relationship the way you want the relationship to go.
When you start a relationship, set boundaries on what you will and WILL NOT tolerate. Put those measures in place so that there is absolutely no excuse when it comes to something that violates you in any way & stick to those measures! Once you tolerate it, it's always going to seem as though it was all talk!
Never be okay with something you know in your heart of hearts your not okay with. It's okay to have standards! If one person doesn't like it, the next one will.
After being in a relationship for 9 years, these points helped me to realize what I would and would not tolerate, my worth , and mindset in what a relationship is really all about.
