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Blogmas Day Nine: How To Cope With Being Lonely This Holiday Season
dymond phillips • Dec 09, 2020
Whether Your Alone Due To The Pandemic Or Being Single.....
We are in the middle of a global pandemic. Some states are more open than others. It may seem like people are “getting back to regular life,“ while you're still stuck at home. Birthdays are looking different this year. Thanksgiving was different this year, so you know Christmas and New Year’s are going to look different this year. Many people are ignoring the guidelines and going back to how things were before the pandemic. If you are being safe and staying away from loved ones, it can be lonely. I’m here to let you know that you are not alone. Whether your family is around the corner or in another state, being by yourself can get to you mentally. Maybe you’re single this season, and trying to navigate being alone during the holidays, without a partner. No matter what the reason for you being alone is, you have to cope in a healthy way.
When I’m single and spending a lot of time on my own, I love to dive into self care. Although the pandemic has changed how self-care looks, I still show myself love on the daily. I used to love going to the movies and to dinner alone, but now I love to order food and watch new movies at home. I turn off all the lights, light candles and really set the mood, in my room. I also love taking car drives, nowhere, and just listening to my favorite podcasts or music. Another way I love on myself is by gifting myself things that make me happy. Sometimes I buy myself big gifts and sometimes I just get myself flowers.
Back when I was away from my family and living in Atlanta, during college, I would love to FaceTime and talk to loved ones regularly. I loved hearing about their day and sharing details of mine. If you are away from your loved ones this season, try doing a Zoom call. My friends and I have even did Zoom wine parties. We would all get on Zoom, and play virtual Uno, it was so much fun. Things are different for everybody this year, don’t feel bad if you are lonely in this season. When I used to be single and would feel myself feeling sad, I would pray and ask God to send me comfort and peace. When I talk to God, I always remember that I'm not alone, no matter how lonely I feel. He is with me. I remain hopeful through the loneliness, because I understand that it’s only a matter of time before the feeling passes. This is a time to create new traditions.
I love to allow myself to feel every emotion. I give myself time to process and feel the feels, but I don’t get stuck in it. Grieve that times are different and things won't be the same. This is a time to remember what and who you still have. Take some time to share your appreciation for the people in your life. Try to find find peace in knowing that you're not the only one who feels lonely or sad this holiday season. This too shall pass.
