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Feel Your Feelings
dymond phillips • Sep 28, 2021
Happy Monday. Last week was a really long week for me. I feel like my life and emotions were all over the place, like a rollercoaster. I came back from Miami on Monday. Whenever I come back from a vacation, I get into a small funk, because I realize where I thought my life would be right now. Wednesday my fifth annual fast and detox ended and I felt so accomplished. A few other things happened too. Honestly, life was just lifing last week.
Normally when my emotions are high, I try to avoid them altogether. I avoid them by burying myself into work, or holding them in and acting as if they’d go away. Last Friday, I decided to let myself just feel. I needed a moment to myself to just cry. Feeling the feels, doesn’t only apply to sad emotions. Sometimes when good things happen and our emotions are high, we can be so focused on the next thing that we don’t feel the joy. When my fast and detox ended on Wednesday, I sat down and started planning for next year. I didn’t allow myself to sit in the happiness that I had for completing my task. Your feelings are real. Although they aren’t always facts, they are real to you. Feeling the feels looks different for everybody.
Acknowledging your feelings, sometimes can be a struggle, but it’s important. Often times I find myself telling people to get out their feelings. That’s wrong on so many levels, and I’m working on it. Last week, my pastor did a sermon on emotions. God created us to be emotional beings. The problem comes when you let your emotions take over you. There is a such thing as being too emotional, but we’re not talking about that today. Today, we are talking about simply feeling your emotions. If you need to cry and scream, do that. Maybe you’re the type who meditates and journals during an emotional time that’s cool too. My pastors sermon said that God created us to be emotional beings. He said that you need to feel your feels. In order to do so, you must first recognize them and then release them thru prayer. He said that prayer must be your first response to dealing with your emotions. Things don’t have to be going wrong for you to pray. If things are going wrong, cast your burdens into the Lord. That’s the only way to work thru our emotions.
Society has a way of making us feel bad for having feelings. Especially with social media, nobody seems to really have emotions. Nobody is a robot who is emotionless. Some people have found ways to cover up their feelings, but that doesn’t mean that they’re not there. Holding in and harboring feelings, is so bad for you mentally and physically. You may think you’re over it, when in reality you’re just ignoring it. Bad things are going to happen, that’s life. You have the right to have any feelings you feel. Don’t let anyone make you feel like your emotions aren’t valid. Make sure you’re checking in with yourself, to ask yourself how you’re doing. If you’re not honest with anyone else, make sure you’re honest with yourself. There’s nothing wrong with feeling your feelings, just make sure you don’t get stuck there.
I say all this to say feel your feelings. You are human and your emotions are a part of that. If you need to take a day to yourself to feel your feels, do that. My mom once told me, feeling you’re feelings is good, but make sure you’re talking to someone. If you can’t find anyone to talk to yet, try talking to God. He will bring you peace when you don’t even know you need it. Whether it’s happiness, sadness, joy, anxiousness, or anything, your feelings are valid and need to be acknowledged. It’s Monday, a fresh week. This is the Monday in September. Friday starts a new month and quarter. Whatever happened last week, yesterday or last month is over. Use today as a fresh start!
