The Gift of December: 12 Days of Christmas with Dymond’s Diary | Day Eight: Embracing the Season You’re In
Finding Joy & Presence In The Season I'm In
This series was never about perfection or pressure, it’s about honoring the season you’re in and leaning in where you are. Some days are slower, some days are fuller, and both are allowed. What matters most is showing up present and open to what God is teaching you in the moment.
Being single for the holidays carries such a negative stigma, when in reality, it’s really not bad at all. This is my second year being single during the holidays, and honestly, it’s just as joyful as when I’ve been in a relationship.
I was walking Saint last Saturday when the Holy Spirit reminded me that God is a God of seasons and He honors them. Every year, without fail, we experience winter, spring, summer, and fall. There’s a season for sowing and a season for reaping. You can’t experience a harvest if you never sow the seed. That means every season matters, whether it feels ideal or not.
Another thing the Holy Spirit showed me is that seasons are temporary. Just last week, it was freezing here in Atlanta. By Saturday, the sun was shining, and it was 66 degrees. A reminder that everything changes. When you spend your time longing for past seasons or fixating on future ones, you miss the beauty and the lessons of the present. If you spend all winter hating the cold and wishing for summer, you’ll miss the snow, the holiday lights, and the quiet magic that only winter brings. Every season carries both beauty and challenge.
I say all of that to say, I’m currently in my single season, and instead of wishing it away or resenting it, I’ve decided to fully embrace it. For me, that looks like dating myself and doing the things I genuinely enjoy. It looks like trying new places and experiences. It looks like leaning into my girlfriends and planning intentional girl days when I feel sad or when I catch myself wanting a man’s presence.
It looks like not skipping holiday parties just because I don’t have a date, but instead putting on a cute outfit, owning my season, and going to have a good time. It looks like decorating my home even though I don’t have children. It looks like being deeply present with my family when I’m blessed with time together. It looks like intentionally calling and checking on family and friends I haven’t spoken to in a while.
That’s how you embrace singleness during the holidays. Yes, there are moments when I want companionship. And when those moments come, I sit with them. Because the truth is, this could be my last holiday season single. I choose to look at the glass half full. What if this is my final Christmas without having to split time between my family traditions and someone else’s? What if this is the last season where I get to move freely, fully, and intentionally on my own? That perspective changes everything. That’s how you honor the season instead of taking it for granted.
So far this season, I’ve already attended two Christmas tree lightings, one with a friend and one with just Saint and I. I’ve gone to Christmas movie premieres both solo and with my girlfriends. I decorated my home exactly how I wanted, without anyone else’s opinions. I’ve gone to my church Christmas concert alone. I went to Vegas for a day with my sisters. And this is only the beginning. I still plan to do matching pajamas, holiday photoshoots, light tours, and all the festive things, even if I have to do them alone.
Every night, I pick a Christmas movie and watch it by myself, and it genuinely brings me joy. Watching love stories unfold reminds me that love exists, even when I’m not currently experiencing it romantically. That’s how I’m embracing this season.
Another reality I allow myself to sit with is this: God does not owe me anything. He has already given me more than I could have ever imagined or deserved. If it is not in His plan for me to be in a relationship, or even to become a wife or a mother, that is something I must find peace in. Because the truth is, this may be my last holiday season single… or this may be my life until Jesus returns.
And you have to find peace there.
That is true surrender; trusting that God’s will will be done, whatever His will may be. And even if His plan looks different than mine, I can still create joy within singleness, even during the holidays.
Maybe you’re not single, but I challenge you to honor and embrace whatever season you’re in this Christmas. I’m not saying ignore your feelings. Feel them. Sit with them. But don’t let them stop you. Do it scared. Do it tired. Just do it.
If you’re a wife or mother missing your single holiday days because life feels hectic, pause and recognize the blessings surrounding you now. If you’re grieving or navigating loss, I’m sending you all the virtual love and hugs. This season may look different, but you are allowed to create new traditions. Hold space for your emotions, whatever they may be, but I also challenge you to live out loud. Try something new. Create memories anyway.
No matter how hard this season may feel, there is something you can be grateful for. Fix your eyes on that. And if gratitude feels hard, start small. Write a thankful list, big or tiny, it all counts. When you focus on gratitude, your feelings eventually follow.
Tomorrow, we’re stepping into the fashion side of the holidays, and I can’t wait to share these looks with you.
