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But do they motivate you?
dymond phillips • Jun 20, 2017
It's a lot of factors that go into you finding a boyfriend/girlfriend. One major things is motivation. I'm the type of girl who is very supportive of my boyfriends or who I'm dealing with dreams. For example, if he tell me he wants to play basketball professionally I'll motivate you to stay in the gym everyday I'll help you look into different schools and etc. I'm just that type of person because I want to see everybody win. I want to help who I'm dealing with on top. If I had a man who was a barber I'm posting his flyers everywhere I'm giving out business cards I'm going to help promote because the reason for a relationship is to be a team. I'll come up with ways to turn your dream into a reality I'll even help you network. BUT you have to show that you want it I'm not going to be just doing all the leg work while you sit on your butt. The person you are with should motivate you to "level up" every aspect of your life (Level up is a term described as updating or bettering) The areas you're weak in your partner should help you strengthen! IT SHOULD BE A TWO WAY STREET! I'll tell you a story about my past, my ex, was a different type of man. He was a good dude, yes he had his flaws like all of us but he was so different from what I was used to. Anywhoo, his grind was different. He worked two jobs, stayed working out and craved success. He would speak his future into existence. By me being his girl, watching him follow his dreams and climb the ladder to success, I couldn't just sit down and do nothing. I got me a trainer and started working out. I began grinding even harder in school because he couldn't be this amazing person and I just be some dummy. It's true about the company you keep around you it has a HUGE impact on your life. Self motivation is something I always had but hearing your man say, "I'm proud of you." is legit everything. I helped push him towards his purpose and prayed daily for him and all that he will become. He made me want to be better. That's the purpose of a relationship have someone who wants the same things you do but actually have the drive and ambition also. WE ARE NO LONGER TOGETHER, due to some other things BUT the point of me telling y'all that story was to show y'all don't settle. Everybody heard the song Upgrade You, by Beyoncé ft Jay-z. My favorite line in that song is, "Picture your life elevating with me, make you my project celebrity I'll keep ya name hot in these streets. That little glimpse of light makes a diamond really shine.
You already is a star but unless you're flawless then ya dynasty ain't complete without a chief like me." That's all that it is bettering each other while you better yourself. If you're motivating your partner and they aren't making you better at all then it's no need for you to be in that relationship, it's toxic. I'm learning not to just give and give to people because I'm not getting anything in return (Not material things) Rapper Fab, has this skit on his mixtape, Summertime Shootout. He has a verse where he says, "Motivation is key, it makes it a whole lot easier when you have somebody who is doing the same thing or is grinding just as hard it's something." That is so true the feeling is indescribable when y'all both on y'all sh*t. Have you ever dealt with somebody who was complacent with where they were and had no desire to get better. It's draining because, if you're like me, you're very ambitious and obsessed with bettering your life, if the person you're with isn't the same they'll never understand. They'll never understand the times your busy, they'll never understand why you are building the bricks for your future. Learn from me and get out early because you can even lose site of your dreams by being with someone like that. "If you ain't trying to level up I ain't ya type then!" Another major major major thing I want you to take from this it that if you don't have self motivation and self love, you'll always feel dependent on others and nobody wants that!
