How To Stop Your Mind From Getting The Best Of You
Monica once said, “It’s just one of them days, when I wanna be all alone.” Yesterday, was one of those days. I had planned to do a Sunday self-care day, which included going to brunch, taking some pictures at this really cute hotel and more. When it was time for me to start getting ready, that is where the struggle began. I tried on so many outfits and I just wasn’t feeling it. I felt that I looked fat, and my body just wasn’t looking how I wanted in any of the outfits. I just couldn’t find something that I liked. When I started doing my make up, I had a pimple on my cheek, which just threw the entire face off. Once I finished my face, I sat there in the mirror and said to myself, nope not today. I wiped my face from the make up, put some pajamas on and laid down. I took a nap and when I woke up, I watched some TV. Do you ever have days where you just aren’t feeling it? Something was off, but I couldn’t put my finger on it. Physically, nothing was wrong. I wasn’t sad or mad, I honestly just felt blah. After resting for a few hours, I found the strength to get up and get ready for work. As I was getting ready, I started to say affirmations to myself. Along with affirmations, I started to just thank God for all that I have. By the time I got in the car and was on my way to work, I felt much better. I ended up going to work and having a great night.
I say all this to say, every day won’t start off amazing. There will be days where you just don’t feel it. There will be moments when you criticize your looks and life. Although I had plans to spend my self-care Sunday out and enjoying a solo date, instead I decided to stay in and rest. I allowed myself to sit with the feelings I was feeling. Like I said, I had no reason to be upset, or sad, but I was feeling some kind of way. With the way my morning started, I could have kept that same energy throughout the day, but I didn’t. After giving myself time to feel the feels, I switched my focus. The affirmation and gratitude, opened up my mind. Naturally, the feelings went away, without me having to force myself or fake it.
Our minds have a way of making us believe things that aren’t true. Initially I thought by neglecting all my plans, that made me lazy. When I couldn’t find anything to wear, I thought I was fat. When my make up wasn’t coming out the way I wanted, I just figured I was ugly. The truth is, I’m not ugly, fat, or lazy. I'm someone who has self confidence, but we all have these days. There are going to be things that you don’t like about yourself, and those things can be changed. I started back going to the gym and got a new meal plan from my trainer. I know the pimple on my face came from me drinking two cups of Sprite the night before. And maybe I was tired, I do have two jobs and work six days a week. These things didn't need an explanation, but I felt like saying them anyway. Do nothing days are just as important as working days, but that's a topic for another day.
It’s two main things I want you to take away from today’s message. One being, when you feel off, don’t allow your thoughts to take over. You control your mind, so focus on things that are true. If you struggle with this, look in the Bible and look at how God sees you. Look at your life from another perspective. Yes your feelings are valid, but you have so much to be grateful for. The second thing is, don’t allow small things to ruin your day. You have to shake things off. If you don't, that’s how bad days turn to bad weeks, then months and before you know it, a bad year. In life things are going to happen, you won't always be able to follow the plans you make. Don’t write off your entire day because of a little mishap. Keep pushing and watch how the day changes.
