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What Makes A Relationship A Relationship
dymond phillips • Jul 18, 2017
What's the difference between a boyfriend and a friend? I started asking myself this question a couple weeks ago. Of course y'all know I love getting people engaged on social media so I had to ask twitter first. Of course people answered by saying the title and bond! But besides that, nobody had a real answer. I took it upon myself to actually sit and think about the answer. I believe at different ages there are different factors that make a relationship. When you're young and have a "boyfriend/girlfriend" it's just the title because of neither one y'all know what it means. Once you become a teenager you learn more. I say this is the time for you to be in your "dumb relationship" years. When I say dumb love, I don't mean literally dumb. A lot of females go thru the only liking hood guys phase. This is the time for you to have the dumb mistakes of "not knowing your worth" and "not having standards" phase. When you ask a mid teen (15/16) why they are with the person they are with the answer will be very brief, "I love him" "he fine", etc. Reality is they are in relationships just to be in one. No I'm not saying you can't experience love at at 15/16 I'm just giving an example. For example, I've always been the giver of my relationships or "talking to guys." I usually try to "Buy Their Love." I've learned that this NEVER works. So that's something I had to change for me. Because in my eyes I used to think if I buy you nice things or give you my all (money wise) we are in a relationship and you'll never leave me. Don't ask me why, I just always had that mindset until I realized why all my stuff was ending the same way. So as I get older I realize what a relationship is to me now. To me a relationship is something where you have a partner.
Like I said before your partner should make you better. I know for me support is everything for me. I can't be with anyone who doesn't support my brand or anything I have going on. Maybe that's why I keep ignoring all these boys they but speaking my lingo. A relationship to me is private two people. God has to play a major role in my relationship. Well I have a lot of guy friends that are just friends so what makes them just friends? Well first let me say my male friends have set the bar pretty high for my future boyfriend. They support the hell out if my brand, I barely pull my wallet out around them, they respect me they basically show me how a good guy should be. But of course that bond that I have with a boyfriend I won't have with a friend. I can't talk to my male friends about everything like I could with a boyfriend. It's just a different connection. That's a very hard thing to answer. And I'm still struggling to answer it completely. But it's something that you just know inside you. Do you have anything to say on this topic, can you answer the question? Send me a message on my site or even a email dlphillips0409@gmail.com. Who knows you may be featured on the blog.
